Andi. 20. So Cal. Slytherin. Previously houseofgreysuperfan. Far too obsessive for my own good. A mostly-queue run blog.
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"real medicine is fruits and vegetables"
I am so incredibly sick of that ‘hate breeds more hate, stop being angry’ talk that seems to hang over tumblr like a dark cloud, often framing tumblr as a hostile space.
Hate does not breed more hate. That is a simplified pithy saccharine sentiment that totally erases absolutely everybody’s situation and is a veiled form of ‘shut up, you scare me.’
Hate does not breed more hate. Dominant forces in society (and people who intersect with them) are scared and intimidated when subdued demographics rightly resent the way they have been treated, or speak out their frustrations. As a result, they tell people who have rightful reasons to be angry that that anger is hatred and just as bad as what’s hurt them. This is, of course, total horse shit.
This is the same exact horrible talk that tells harassed kids not to confront bullies, or even not to speak out about being harassed to authority figures for fear of ‘snitching’ on their harasser. This is the exact shitty talk that gets the kid who is beaten in the hallway suspended with just as long a term as the kid who beat them.
Saying you’re mad at something that treats you poorly doesn’t make that something treat you worse. That would be what ‘hate breeding hate’ would imply. No. This has literally never happened. Hate doesn’t breed hate. Hate breeds anger, and expressed anger makes privileged people scared.
And of course, there are going to be foolish people. That’s not up for debate. But before we point to the few foolish people who may be inexperienced, unbalanced, or out-of-touch, we should point to the legion of people who prompted a few sad, offensive reactions in the first place, the people who enjoy their awful behavior normalized in our society.
Being quiet about hatred and your feelings just lets others continue beating on you, because their hate isn’t going to stop. Hate doesn’t breed hate. Apathy and ignorance lets hatred continue, and not every expression of frustration or anger is hatred.
Just because someone else’s speech makes you feel kinda sad or scared, doesn’t mean it comes with a self-perpetuating structure of power.
Only the status-quo enforcing ‘hate breeds hate’ crap comes with something as powerful as that.
"Evil is a good man who does nothing" should be the answer to "hate breeds hate".
This is such a good post I am so fond of you.
Marion Mayer in her HuffPo article.
A perfect example of “desert flower” fetishization/exotification. Women of color are always shown as “others”, they’re seen as women who have to use their sexuality to save themselves (or worse, as people who are just inherently sexual by their mere existence).
We’re putting these sexualized images of women of color into cartoons meant for children, essentially brainwashing them to grow into adults who fetishize non-white women. Gross.
i relate to this so much